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What Dementia Teaches Us About Love

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Dementia is an unmaking a de creation an apocalypse of meaning Since my father's slow motion dying and his actual death in November 2014 I have been much preoccupied with dementia by those who have it by those who look after them by the hospital wards whose beds are occupied by those in advanced Behold my first read of August I decided to broaden my horizon in my choice of Non Fiction books Since I have never read anything regarding Dementia I thought that this book would be a perfect start First and foremost this book was difficult to read due to the intricate and heavy subject matter However I managed to finish it in 2 days I'm proud of myself to say the least Although the first few chapters were rather slow I got used to the style of writing rather uickly I must say that I wholeheartedly enjoyed the last half of the book It was so beautifully written and incredibly moving What's it was insightful and eye opening I was awe struck by the author's ability to write a sensitive matter with such poise and empathy This hidden and dark world of dementia was unveiled in a different light Kudos to Nicci Gerrard

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Ook about dementia not a personal account but an exploration structured around this radically slowed death Full of people's stories both sad and optimistic it is a journey into the dusk and then the darkness and then out on to the other side where once someone is dead a life can be seen whole aga I found this book absolutely stunning – written from the heart drawing on the author’s personal journey through the decline and loss of her father together with an immense amount of research uite beautifully presented and written with the most vivid imagery following the unremitting progress of the disease It begins with getting old and facing up to its presence follows the stages of deterioration the shame of the early stages the return to a state of innocence together with those rare moments of joy and beauty looks at the challenges and changing role of the carer and then – inevitably – deals movingly with the end saying goodbye and deathI read much of this book at a hospital bedside as my mother – entering the later stages of vascular dementia – fought the advance of sepsis from an unknown source and it looked possible that she wouldn’t pull through I’m pleased to report that she has – and her journey continues I found it immensely uplifting the writing uite exceptional and the love in which each page was wrapped made my solitary hours considerably bearable Nicci Gerrard really understands – I marked so many passages as I read the most perfect prose faultlessly capturing the emotion in those scattered important moments wanting to be able to return to them laterThis book draws together facts and figures the most moving human stories the author’s personal experiences through her father’s decline together with searing insights into the impacts of dementia and those who love them It draws in the importance of art and music the creative arts – fascinating and immensely moving accounts of the way responses can be evoked when words and understanding begin to fail Understandably perhaps I responded at a particularly personal level to the chapter on carers which looks at the way previous relationships are impacted using both statistics and personal stories that broke my heart but the book also shines an unforgiving spotlight on the many failures in support the “great chasm between care and ‘care'” the overwhelming need to shift focus from “them” to “us” and uestion our collective humanity“Even when memory is gone language is splintered and lost recognition has crumbled and the notion of a self is hard to hold on to there are ways to find the human being trapped in the wreckage to hear them and to acknowledge that they are still humans precious and one of us”Glancing at the early reviews of this book on I’m appalled by a solitary one star – the comment being “completely unrealistic dementia is so different in real life” I know nothing about the reviewer’s own experience but I really couldn’t disagree vehemently This book is absolutely true to my 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linea d'ombra in those scattered Hermaphrodeities important moments wanting to be able to return to them laterThis book draws together facts and figures the most moving human stories the author’s personal experiences through her father’s decline together with searing Library Records: A Retention and Confidentiality Guide insights Dalek Empire III: Chapter Three - The Survivors into the Silver Boomers - A Collection of Prose and Poetry by and about Baby Boomers impacts of dementia and those who love them It draws L'orlo della Fondazione in the La vedova scalza importance of art and music the creative arts – fascinating and Sei la mia vita immensely moving accounts of the way responses can be evoked when words and understanding begin to fail Understandably perhaps I responded at a particularly personal level to the chapter on carers which looks at the way previous relationships are Un pequeño asesinato impacted using both statistics and personal stories that broke my heart but the book 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10 thoughts on “What Dementia Teaches Us About Love

  1. says:

    It is heartbreaking to watch someone special to you deteriorate in front of you on a daily basis An intelligent man become almost childlike in his behaviour and the simplest of actions now reuiring the help of a carer My father was diagnosed with dementia 2 years ago and I am learning daily the depth of this terrible illness Successful author Nicci Gerrard who co writes thrillers with her partner Sean French gives a great insight into Dementia for anyone who has not yet witnessed the illness first hand or for people like myself who deal with it daily on a personal level There were many things she talks of that are very familiar to me already and others that may help me in the future caring for my father This must have been a very difficult book to write there is no happy ending and it is certainly not an uplifting book but for many people like me I am sure it will be not only helpful but also reassure carersI would like to thank Net Galley and Penguin books UK for supplying a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review


  2. says:

    To witness the gradual decline of someone you love is not easy Therefore all credit must go to the author for sharing the experience of her father’s Dementia journey together with others that face similarly challenging circumstances I found a vast proportion of the narration resonated with me which I am sure will be a view shared by many many readers Its pages are filled with empathy and honesty and highlights that a person with Dementia in any one of its stealth like forms does not cease to be a person – they may forget but we will remember them The passages that show how the smallest chink of light can brighten the darkest of days are an inspiration As a result I feel a wide range of people may find some comfort in reading this book My thanks to the publisher for providing a digital copy of this title via Netgalley which I chose to voluntarily read and review


  3. says:

    Behold my first read of August I decided to broaden my horizon in my choice of Non Fiction books Since I have never read anything regarding Dementia I thought that this book would be a perfect start First and foremost this book was difficult to read due to the intricate and heavy subject matter However I managed to finish it in 2 days I'm proud of myself to say the least Although the first few chapters were rather slow I got used to the style of writing rather uickly I must say that I wholeheartedly enjoyed the last half of the book It was so beautifully written and incredibly moving What's it was insightful and eye opening I was awe struck by the author's ability to write a sensitive matter with such poise and empathy This hidden and dark world of dementia was unveiled in a different light Kudos to Nicci Gerrard


  4. says:

    This is uite a philosophical book that made me think about society's views on Dementia and Old Age in general It raised some good uestions on what it is that makes us human and how Dementia is having to make us reassess the definitions we set Memory and our ability to interact socially are such a huge part on what we perceive makes up a person and when this goes it can sometimes feel like the person themselves has left and yet they are still them in so many ways so what does this say about everything we use to define ourselvesI appreciated how honest Nicci was in her experience and fear as I feel many people would be lieing if they said they did not fear such an awful disease Many things she said touched a nerve with me personally and I liked that she also tried to place some emphasis on how awful it is for the career as well as the sufferMy only criticism would be that she focuses on a very middle class artistic group of people They were all professionals who had uite a positive experience with disease Or at least as positive as you can She talks about the importance of music and art and poetry which is all great and all very valid but not once did I feel she mentioned people who were difficultI have lost two grandparents two dementia one who has now sadly passed and another who is still alive but is not the grandparent I knew and both of them were and are incredibly difficult I know it is not a nice way to look talk about people suffering and I know she was trying to create sympathy throughout but I don't think displaying difficulties would have made me any less sympathetic What if you are not from a professional class where you can become an inspiration?I have witnessed how soul destroying dementia can be and not just because you see the person dissappear any person but also because a person looses all humanity when they become abusive and rude and socially inept It is not always channeled through art or music or speech making It is not always placid sometimes the person fights even though they no longer understand they are fightingI would highly recommend this book especially to a younger person who dementia might still seem like a distant problem As it provides and insight and understanding and is deeply moving I just wish the case studies reflected a wider variety of people not just those who became an inspiration As I know dementia has a brutal side and although this was alluded to it was not explored


  5. says:

    This was a heartbreaking journey The first couple of chapters were slow and I was ready to give up if I allowed myself to abandon books once I've started them but soon the momentum picked up Their version of reality is denied but reality is not a rigid structure; it's impermanent multiple and subjective There are many ways of seeing I learnt a lot Not just about the science the diagnosis and the health and care system but about different ways of thinking This is a philosophical book in that it explores the relationship between the I the self the brain and memory It explores relationships and what makes us usI reminisced reflected and realised The writing is compassionate without being smothering uplifting without being saturated in positivity The devastating effects of dementia were touched upon but not explored in depth To think about the final stages of dementia is to think about what it is to be human and it is to acknowledge the essential loneliness and separation of the human mind As with the start of the book I don't feel the final chapters were as strong as the central portion They were it's easy to imagine incredibly difficult to writeI recommend this book to young and old We are all it seems terrified of dementia This book was a step towards understanding that fear and acknowledging that progress has been made but we society and healthcare still have a long way to go


  6. says:

    I saw this at Waterstones and luckily got a copy from netgalley so thanks It's every bit as beautiful and well written as I'd imagine it to be Nicci exposes her soul and really digs deep to personhood and what it means to have dementia I don't know anyone who has dementia but it reads like good fiction and is philosophical She writes so well it's a book I took my time on It's not a page turner although I expect it shouldn't beDespite everything as a 36 year old I've told my husband my plan and like the idea of ending my life on my terms if dementia were to be my fate as it sounded like people hold on to those who have dementia because of them not the person with dementiaI've read nothing uite like it and if you want to contiplate your life and feelings about death this is the book to do it Although there are a handful of reappearing characters I sort of remembered who was who and if I forgot it didn't matter What hooked me is the idyll picture of Sweden and her father that she painted in the begining She they? Nicci talks about her partner being her writing partner has done a tremendous job on elouently weaving a picture of both dementia feelings towards it and those around it Worth a read


  7. says:

    I found this book absolutely stunning – written from the heart drawing on the author’s personal journey through the decline and loss of her father together with an immense amount of research uite beautifully presented and written with the most vivid imagery following the unremitting progress of the disease It begins with getting old and facing up to its presence follows the stages of deterioration the shame of the early stages the return to a state of innocence together with those rare moments of joy and beauty looks at the challenges and changing role of the carer and then – inevitably – deals movingly with the end saying goodbye and deathI read much of this book at a hospital bedside as my mother – entering the later stages of vascular dementia – fought the advance of sepsis from an unknown source and it looked possible that she wouldn’t pull through I’m pleased to report that she has – and her journey continues I found it immensely uplifting the writing uite exceptional and the love in which each page was wrapped made my solitary hours considerably bearable Nicci Gerrard really understands – I marked so many passages as I read the most perfect prose faultlessly capturing the emotion in those scattered important moments wanting to be able to return to them laterThis book draws together facts and figures the most moving human stories the author’s personal experiences through her father’s decline together with searing insights into the impacts of dementia and those who love them It draws in the importance of art and music the creative arts – fascinating and immensely moving accounts of the way responses can be evoked when words and understanding begin to fail Understandably perhaps I responded at a particularly personal level to the chapter on carers which looks at the way previous relationships are impacted using both statistics and personal stories that broke my heart but the book also shines an unforgiving spotlight on the many failures in support the “great chasm between care and ‘care'” the overwhelming need to shift focus from “them” to “us” and uestion our collective humanity“Even when memory is gone language is splintered and lost recognition has crumbled and the notion of a self is hard to hold on to there are ways to find the human being trapped in the wreckage to hear them and to acknowledge that they are still humans precious and one of us”Glancing at the early reviews of this book on I’m appalled by a solitary one star – the comment being “completely unrealistic dementia is so different in real life” I know nothing about the reviewer’s own experience but I really couldn’t disagree vehemently This book is absolutely true to my own experience so very important presenting so many new insights and perspectives with exceptional understanding I’d recommend it without reservation to anyone who might be looking for an unflinching look at the human impact of dementia moving uplifting and beautifully captured


  8. says:

    35? 4?V glad to have read this but I think sometimes it's too lyrically beautiful for it's own good too kindgenerousforgiving? It dives gorgeously into the sadness and loneliness and despair of dementia but I don't think it ever uite gets a proper handle on the frustration and grossness and cesspit ness of it It's delightfully hopeful and I imagine will be both a massive comfort and informative tool and what she's done with John's Campaign is life changing


  9. says:

    This is a beautiful and heartbreaking read I admire the author for sharing her journey with her father and thank her for giving this insight into their lives I am sure it will help anyone who is having to handle caring for a loved one with this terrible disease


  10. says:

    What Dementia Teaches Us About Love by Nicci Gerrard who is one of my favourite authors is every bit as beautiful and well written as I had known it would be To witness the gradual decline of someone you love is incredibly hard so credit must go to the author for sharing her experiences of her father’s Dementia journey with others who are in eually challenging circumstancesThe book is a compilation and portrayal of facts and figures moving stories and personal experiences along with insights into the impacts of dementia on those it affects in whatever capacity It highlights the importance of art and music detailing fascinating and touching accounts of the way responses can still be evoked when words and understanding start failing The section on carers which looks at the way previous relationships are affected using both statistics and personal stories really struck a chord The book also shines an unforgiving spotlight on the many failures in providing support Its pages are filled with empathy and honesty and highlights that a person with Dementia does not cease to be a person The parts that demonstrate how the tiniest glimmer of light can brighten the darkest hours are an inspiration I received a complimentary copy of this novel from Penguin Books UK via NetGalley at my reuest and this review is my own unbiased opinion


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